The best way to feel better about your life is to make your calendar reflect your values.

As moms, we’re constantly striving for fulfillment.

We go through life WAITING.

We’re waiting to feel good.

Waiting for our own time.

Waiting to see if it will work out, if we can do what we want.

It’s no wonder we feel stuck, like we’re on hold.

If you’re waiting for your life to change, it’s going to feel like it’s out of your control.

It’s going to seem like this is just how it has to be because you’re a mom.

But the only reason this is happening is because you’re using your primitive brain.

Your primitive brain only wants 3 things:

1. it wants to avoid pain,

2. be efficient,

3. and do what feels good in the moment.

This is why it seems like you can’t do what you want.

If what you want is to be creative because you know that having your creative time is vital to your emotional well being, but in order to have that time you want a quiet house, your brain will tell you it’s not worth it.

It’s too painful.

It takes too much work to make it happen.

And the creative juices probably won’t flow anyway, so why bother.

When this happens, you put yourself in a lose-lose situation.

The worst part is, when we do this, we don’t even realize we’re doing it. That’s how effective the human brain is.

The good news is…all you need is this awareness.

Now that you know how your brain will keep you stuck, all you have to do to feel fulfilled as a mom is to stop waiting.

The opposite of waiting is movement.

It’s taking action.

If you’re going to take action, you have to first DECIDE to take action.

You have to literally go against your brain.

You have to be willing to be uncomfortable, to let it take time, and delay gratification.

But listen, it’s easier than it sounds because you have a prefrontal cortex. When you use your prefrontal cortex, you use the part of your brain that wants what’s best for you in the long run.

In order to use your prefrontal cortex, you have to plan ahead.

So, what are the things you want to plan for?

What makes you happy?

What makes you feel fulfilled?

What do you value?

The truth is, we are more productive when the things we are asking ourselves to do are aligned with our values.

If you spend your time on what matters most to you, you will feel better AND you’ll get more done.

So here’s your homework for today:

1. Make a list of your top 5 values. 

2. List them in order of importance.

3. Decide EXACTLY when and how you will spend time on them.

4. Know that your primitive brain will try to talk you out of it.

5. Use your prefrontal cortex and follow through anyway.

6. Make yourself proud.

When you do this, you start living aligned with your values.

You start doing what’s most important to you.

Your calendar starts reflecting your values and you start feeling better about your life.

You don’t have to change everything to start loving your life as a mom. You just have to get aligned with what matters most to you. 

Get your values on your calendar and make it easy to love your life.

xo,
M